Finding Your Ideal Partner

A simple definition of dating according to Wikipedia is, “a form of courtship by two people to assess each other’s suitability as a partner in a relationship or a spouse.” As simple as that sounds, dating is a stressful experience in any country—usually because there is an evaluation process going on, especially on the first date.

Dating has undergone a transformation over the last several years. Blind dates are still a popular way of meeting new people, along with taking classes and the workplace. However, there is a growing world-wide use of the Internet and social networking to meet new, potential dates. There are also a growing number of online dating websites that help men and women connect with each other.

As much as dating has changed and as stressful as it is for two strangers to go out on a date and get to know each other, the same basic rules still apply. Mutual respect is the foundation for finding a partner. Another important rule is to listen more and talk less. Show genuine interest in what a new date has to say— remembering what is said is important because it is a compliment to the other person. Manners are always important and never go out of style. A date is a special occasion for both people, so treat it like one. Irish dating, like dating in any other country, requires sensitivity and openness for success.

The best asset a person—man or woman—has on a date is self-confidence in who they are. That air of self-assurance puts both of them at ease. Being genuine—being real—is the key to a great date.

Online Dating in a Nutshell

Millions of people are online looking for dates. If you’re having trouble, it might be your profile. When you sit down to write your profile it’s hard to decide where to start–so you may start rattling off the old likes and dislikes list. But there’s more to you than your choice of soda. Here’s a little dating advice on ways to express yourself online.

Online dating sites usually include a “summery” of you; your likes, dislikes, tastes in movies/music, a rough rundown of your physical appearance and a box to tell everyone what you’re looking for in a date. Each section is important, so take your time to fill it out. A vital piece of dating advice is to keep your summery short and try to say something eye catching. Accuracy is vital to online profiles because you’re trying to find someone who will like YOU, not an incomplete version of you that has all the bad bits cut out. Be honest about yourself and who you really are. It’s also a good idea to have a friend take a good, clear and fun picture of you.

Here’s one last piece of good dating advice; if you want to attract someone who has similar interests, drives a nice car and has brown hair, make sure you say so in your profile. Describe what you’re looking for in a date, but keep the list of “must-haves” short. If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, say so. Avoid stating that you want a different type of relationship than you really do because that will attract the wrong type of person.

Good luck and good hunting.